Friday, June 25th, 2010...12:00 pm
A friend of mine recently posted what she’s looking for in a mate. My list is below. Let me know what you think! Especially those of you that have been in happy relationships for a while. Is what I want reasonable? Am I missing anything?
Strong wants/must haves
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Intelligence
Loves to read. Knows what makes a good argument. Understands the principles of statistical reasoning (i.e. knows the difference between a controlled experiment and an uncontrolled experiment). Can write and speak well.
Kind
Never does something to be deliberately hurtful. Treats all people with respect, not just those who can advancer her agenda. Never says unkind things about someone else’s weight or personal foibles. Looks for the best in others.
Honest
Tells the truth, as she sees it. Admits when she is wrong.
Responsible
Pays bills on time. Does what she says she will do. Works hard at her job.
Sexy
Makes me hot and bothered. Enjoys both cuddling and sex. Thinks I’m sexy.
Curious
Thirsts for new knowledge and new experiences. Willing to try new things. Can’t imagine ever running out of things to do, even if given an infinite lifespan.
Healthful
Committed to maintaining and improving her body’s health and beauty. Eats lots of fruits and vegetables. Exercises regularly. Uses recreational drugs in moderation.
Kids
Wants to have kids. Believes in giving kids a lot of love, freedom, and responsibility.
Self-reliant
Supports stocking up on food, guns, and other supplies. Wants to stay out of debt.
Creative
Has some creative outlet–doesn’t particularly matter what it is. Could be writing, painting, algorithms, music, sculpture, dance, etc.
Humor
Likes to laugh. Finds joy in small things. Laughs at my jokes.
Cooperative
Listens to what I have to say. Willing to look for mutually agreeable compromises. Doesn’t demand immediate tit for tat. Thinks long term. Patient with my faults.
Communicative
Likes talking with me about a wide variety of subjects. Tells me what she wants and needs.
Miscellaneous
Will honor my desire to be cryopreserved and to cryopreserve my children if need be.
Would like to have
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An interest in cryonics, seasteading, libertarian politics,
Likes to travel.
Clean and organized
Likes pets (cats, dogs, whatever)
Wants to be cryopreserved
Math skills
Leadership ability
Desire to take dancing lessons.
Hearty. Not easily dissuaded by harsh environments. If she likes going to Burning Man, she’s probably hearty.
Resilient. Easily bounces back from hardship.
Flexible. Could be happy living anywhere from a small town to the big city, here or abroad.
Outgoing, makes friends easily.
Tolerable foibles
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Absentminded (forgets birthdays, purse)
Imperfect body (some flab, wrinkles okay)
Messy
Imperfect eating, spending habits. ( God knows, I have my own struggles with gustatory urges. )
Lack of confidence
Religious belief. Buddhism is probably okay. Some forms of Christianity, such as Deism, will also work.
Has a crazy family.
Terrible at telling jokes/funny stories
Shy
Deal breakers
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Smokes regularly.
Doesn’t want kids. ( I’m in no great rush to have kids, but I would like to have them someday. )
Cruelty. Comments loudly about how fat the woman at the next table is.
Dishonesty. Has affairs, skips out on debts.
Religious fundamentalism. If you demand that I go to church on Sunday, or think I’m going to hell because I don’t believe as you do, it probably won’t work out.
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