Friday, December 19th, 2008...8:50 am
“He snapped my bra like a Concord taking off, and I was unhooked for love.”
A friend of mine recently posted what she’s looking for in a mate. Inspired, I decided to make one of my own.
Strong wants/must haves
Intelligent
Loves to read. Knows what makes a good argument. Understands the principles of statistical reasoning (i.e. knows the difference between a controlled experiment and an uncontrolled experiment). Can write and speak well.
Kind
Never does something to be deliberately hurtful. Treats all people with respect, not just those who can advance her agenda. Never says unkind things about someone’s personal foibles. Looks for the best in others.
Honest
Tells the truth, as she sees it. Admits when she is wrong.
Responsibile
Pays bills on time. Does what she says she will do. Works hard at her job.
Sexy
Makes me hot and bothered. Enjoys both cuddling and sex. Thinks I’m sexy.
Curious
Thirsts for new knowledge and new experiences. Willing to try new things. Can’t imagine ever running out of things to do, even if given an infinite lifespan.
Healthful
Committed to maintaining and improving her body’s health and beauty. Eats lots of fruits and vegetables. Exercises regularly. Uses recreational drugs in moderation.
Likes Kids
Wants to have kids. Believes in giving kids a lot of love, freedom, and responsibility.
Self-reliant
Supports stocking up on food, guns, and other supplies. Wants to stay out of debt.
Creative
Has some creative outlet–doesn’t particularly matter what it is. Could be writing, painting, algorithms, music, sculpture, dance, etc.
Good Humor
Likes to laugh. Finds joy in small things. Laughs at my jokes. Makes me laugh.
Cooperative
Listens to what I have to say. Willing to look for mutually agreeable compromises. Doesn’t demand immediate tit for tat. Thinks long term. Patient with my faults.
Communicative
Likes talking with me about a wide variety of subjects. Tells me what she wants and needs.
Optimistic
Generally upbeat and optimistic about the future. Doesn’t dwell on her problems.
Miscellaneous
Will honor my desire to be cryopreserved and to cryopreserve my children if need be.
Would like to have
Wants to have her head frozen.
Likes pets (cats, dogs, whatever)
Wants to live on a floating platform in the middle of the ocean.
Clean and organized
Wants to become a hyperintelligent cloud of nanobots travelling through space at the speed of light.
Knows differential calculus.
Rides a motorcycle.
Knows how to tie knots.
Likes to dance.
Hearty. Not easily dissuaded by harsh environments. If she likes going to Burning Man, she’s probably hearty.
Resilient. Easily bounces back from hardship.
Flexible. Could be happy living anywhere from a small town to the big city, here or abroad.
Outgoing, makes friends easily.
Indifferent to fashion
Tolerable foibles
Absentminded (forgets birthdays, purse)
Imperfect body (some flab, wrinkles okay)
Messy
Imperfect eating, spending habits.
Lack of confidence
Religious belief. Buddhism is probably okay. Some forms of Christianity, such as Deism, will also work.
Crazy family.
Terrible at telling jokes/funny stories
Shy
Impatient
Deal breakers
Smokes regularly.
Doesn’t want kids. ( I’m in no great rush to have kids, but I would like to have them someday. )
Cruel.
Dishonest. Has affairs, skips out on debts.
Excessively religious. If you demand that I go to church on Sunday, or think I’m going to hell because I don’t believe as you do, it probably won’t work out.
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